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Getting to Know Me Round 2

Published March 26, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hey doll hey!!! I’m back with another round of lightning questions that I read on bekkibee22’s blog and thought I’d join the tag…. So here goes nothing …

My Full Name- Nita Garcia

My Age? 46p

My Height?- 5ft 3in

My Star Sign?- Vergio

Where was I born? Philadelphia PA USA

My Birthday? September 15 1973

Relationship Status? Happily Married

Partner’s Name Sergio

Where do I live now? – Orlando,FL USA

What 3 Words Would I Use To Describe Myself? Compassionate, Timid, and Friendly

Natural Hair Colour? Brunette

Eye Colour? Brown

Tattoos? Yes 9…. I have Disney’s Figment, A sun with and eye, 3 Shadow Hunters ruins, Disney’s Grumpy, a mandala hand, and a Semicolon project dragonfly

Siblings?- Yes I have 1 younger sister

Job?- No. I am disabled

Pets? None at the time…. landlord wont allow them, but when we buy out house next year I want to get a Boxer.

Conditions? I have fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, PCOS, Anxiety disorder, PTSD, Clinical depression, Bipolar disorder, and Hashimoto’s Syndrome

Lucky Number? the numbers 7 and 21

Shoe Size?- Size 6

Clothing Size?– 22 Im a big girl but nothing I can do all of medication causes weight gain.

Favourite Time Era? 70’s and the 40’s

Intersting Fact- I love to sing but shy away from singing in front of people.

Well that’s all for now dolls. Remember save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

Xoxo

Matte Smokey Purple Eye Face of the Day

Published March 26, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hey doll hey!!! How are you today? Great I hope. I woke up around 8:30 AM and tried to get my makeup done but I had to rest a ton today… I was up most of the night coughing and vomiting because I was coughing so much. It left me feeling super weak today so because of all of my rest stops I didn’t get my makeup finished until 5:30 PM …. I wanted to give up so bad but I enjoy doing my Face of the Day posts…. so I pushed through the fatigue. I wanted to do a smokey purple look today…. it’s not the best it could be because of how tired I feel and because stopping and starting makeup tends to through me off my game …. but none the less I got the look completed…. so let’s jump into the scent and Face of the Day ….

 

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Davidoff  Cool Water. I purchased this one last year when I got nostalgic for my college scent. I purchased it through Amazon for $30 for a 3.4 fluid ounce bottle. The notes are: Ozonic Scents (meaning it has an aquatic scent), Citrus, Pineapple, Black Currant, Honeydew Melon, Lotus Blossom, Water Lily, May Rose, Jasmine, Lily of the Valley, Orris (the root of the Iris flower), Vetiver, Sandalwood, Peach, and Mulberry. The result is just heavenly! It truly has an aquatic scent to it that is a bit sweet and a bit musky. This is a great causal day perfume. I fall in love all over again with this scent every time I wear it. 

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Base:                                                                                                                                                         I primed my face using Flower Beauty In Your Prime Pore-Minimizing Primer ($10.99 at Ulta) and blurred my pores using Tarte Clean Slate Timeless Smoothing Primer ($39 at Sephora). For my foundation today I used a combo of 5 pumps of BECCA Backlight Priming Filter ($39 at Sephora) and 10 pumps of NARS All Day Luminous Weightless Foundation ($49 at Sephora) in the shade Light 5 Fiji. I lightly color corrected my under eyes using Pixi by Petra Correction Concentrate ($12 at Target and on the Pixi Beauty website) in the shade Brightening Peach. I used 3 dots under each eye of Makeup Forever Ultra HD Invisible Cover Concealer (discontinued) in the shade R22. I set my full face using Laura Mercier Loose Setting Powder () in the shade Translucent. I warmed up my face using Benefit Hoola Bronzer from my Babe on Board (no longer available was a limited edition product) face palette. For touch up powder today I am using Physicians Formula Natural Defense Setting the Tone Finishing Powder ($14.99 at Target) in the shade Light.

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Eyes:                                                                                                                                                         I primed my lids using P.Louise Base ($10 pound sterling/ $12.08 USD on their website… can also be found on the Morphie website for $15) in the shade Rumour 0.5 and today I chose not to set the base. For today’s eye look I used the ColourPop palette I created that I hauled 2 days ago and 2 shades from the other ColourPop palette I created. For my first transition shade I used the color Wake Up Call (a warm sand matte). For my second transition shade I used a combo of Wake Up Call (a warm sand matte) and Feathered (a rich chocolate brown matte). On the inner 2/3 of my mobile lid I used the shade Pretty Cruel (a berry mauve with gold flecks sequin). On the outer 1/3 of my mobile lid and also the outer v I used the shade Sleeper (a matte eggplant pressed pigment). I used the more of the shade Pretty Cruel on the lower lash line to create a drop shadow and than went in with more of the shade Sleeper to deepen the lower lash line. I highlighted the inner corners using a layered combo of the shade Earthshine (a pinky lavender with a blue duochrome flip metallic) and Liar Liar (a pale pink metallic). I set my brows using Maybelline Great Lash Mascara ($6.99 at Ulta but I purchased mine from Amazon) in clear and then filled in my brows using Milani Stay Put Brow Color ($8.49 at Ulta) in the shade 05 Dark Brown. I carved out my brow line using the BH Studio Pro Brow Highlighter ($5 on their website) on the matte sides and set the brow line using the shade Hear Me Out (a white peach matte). I lined my lower waterlines using ColourPop Lippie Pencil (this shade is only available in the Lippie Box Vault on their website) in the shade THB (deep violet). I popped on a pair of Profusion Beauty 3D Faux Mink Lashes ($7 for pack of 5 on their website) in the style Big Tease and coated my upper and lower lashes with L’Oreal Voluminous Carbon Black Mascara ($8.99 at Ulta).

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Cheeks and Lips:                                                                                                                                My blush today is Tarte Amazonian Clay 12-HR Blush ($29 at Sephora) in the shade Blushing Bride (a rosey pink matte). I highlighted my Cupid’s Bow, tops of the cheeks, bridge of the nose, center of my chin, and high points of the brows using Dandelion Twinkle from the Benefit Babe on Board Palette (no longer available was a limited edition product). I lined my lips using ColourPop Lippie Pencil ($6 on their website) in the shade Another Round (a rosey nude) and filled in the lips using ColourPop Creme Lux Lipstick (shade discontinued) in the shade Uno Mas (a medium coral demi matte).

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Final Thoughts:                                                                                                                                   So today our county goes on lock down at 11 PM … for 2 weeks… but it may be extended further than that if extra time is needed. I have never been in a lock down situation before…. it’s pretty scary to know that things have gotten so bad and people have not done what they were asked that the Government has to step in and essentially put us all on a time out. I hope and pray that this thing gets resolved quickly that we will not have many months (as so people say could happen) of battling this virus. My anxiety disorder is on high alert because of the state of the planet right now. I fear what will happen next…. what will happen if the Governments can not get a handle on this virus.

Well that’s all for now dolls. I hope you enjoy the rest of your night/day and that you are healthy and in good spirits. Remember … save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

XOXO

 

 

Smokey Gold Eye Face of the Day

Published March 25, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hey doll hey!!! How’s your day going? Great I hope. I woke up around 8 AM today and kinda just laid in bed for awhile. I’m feeling a bit better today. Throat is no longer sore and my pain level is around 6. I still have a runny nose and a nasty little cough but for the most part I’m doing pretty good. I called my doctor for my Covid-19 test results and they STILL don’t have them back from the testing center…. this worries me because that means that there are a heap of people with symptoms that have taken the test and this is why the results are taking forever…. that makes me sad for the human race. Well …. let’s jump into today’s scent and Face of the Day …..

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Elizabeth Arden Red Door Revealed. I purchased mine from Macy’s for $30 for 3.3 fluid ounces. I have repurchased this scent 2 times and truly ardor this scent. the notes are  orchid, peony,  pear rose, orange blossom, plum, tiare flower, yellow champaca, oakmoss, musk, amber and Guaiac wood. This is a clean crisp scent that’s slightly sweet with a heady floral make up. This perfume is great for either casual or dressy looks and is one of my all time favorite Spring time scents.

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Base:                                                                                                                                                         I primed my face using Flower Beauty In Your Prime Pore-Minimizing Primer ($10.99 at Ulta) and also Tarte Clean Slate Timeless Smoothing Primer ($39 at Ulta) to blur my pores around my cheeks and nose. My foundation today is a combo of 3 pumps BECCA Backlight Priming Filter ($39 at Sephora) and 3 pumps Revolution Beauty Conceal & Hydrate Radiance Foundation ($12 at Ulta and on their website) in the shade F5.7.  I lightly color corrected my under eyes using Pixi by Petra Correction Concentrate ($12 at Target and on the Pixi Beauty website) in the shade Brightening Peach. I used 3 dots under each eye of Flower Beauty Light Illusion Full Coverage Concealer ($10 on their website) in the shade L3.4 Light. I set my full face using  Believe Beauty Matte Blur Loose Powder ($5 at Dollar General) in the shade Translucent and warmed up my face using ColourPop Pressed Bronzer ($8 on their website) in the shade Talk to the Palm. For touch up powder today I am using Physicians Formula Natural Defense Setting the Tone Finishing Powder ($14.99 at Target) in the shade Light.

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Eyes:                                                                                                                                                         I primed my lids using P.Louise Base ($10 pound sterling/ $12.08 USD on their website… can also be found on the Morphie website for $15) in the shade Rumour 0.5 and today I chose not to set the base. For today’s eye look I used the ColourPop palette I created that I hauled yesterday.  For my transition shade I used the color  Sea Stars (a medium yellow brown matte). For my crease shade I used the color Top Notch (a terracotta brown matte). I then used the shade 20 Something (a peachy gold metallic) all over my mobile lid. To deepen my outer v and outer 1/3 of the mobile lid I used the shade Feathered (a rich chocolate brown matte) from the 1st palette I put together from ColourPop. I created a drop shadow using more of the shade Sea Stars (a medium yellow brown matte) and then used more of the shade Top Notch (a terracotta brown matte) closest to my lower lash line. I then used the shade Liar Lair (a pale pink metallic) to highlight the inner corners of my eyes. I set my brows using Maybelline Great Lash Mascara ($6.99 at Ulta but I purchased mine from Amazon) in clear and then filled in my brows using Milani Stay Put Brow Color ($8.49 at Ulta) in the shade 05 Dark Brown. I carved out my brow line using the BH Studio Pro Brow Highlighter ($5 on their website) on the matte sides and set the brow line using the shade Hear Me Out (a white peach matte). I lined my lower waterlines using ColourPop BFF Creme Gel Liner ($6 on their website) in the shade Get Paid (a rose gold metallic) and I created a winged liner using Kat Von D Tattoo Liner ($21 at Sephora) in the shade Mad Max Brown and popped on a pair Kiss Looks So Natural Lashes ($12 for 5 pairs at Ulta) in the style Flirty and coated my upper and lower lashes with L’Oreal Voluminous Carbon Black Mascara ($8.99 at Ulta).

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Cheeks and Lips:                                                                                                                                For my blush and highlighter I used the Rimmel London and Kate face palette ($6 on Amazon) in the shade 002 Coral Glow. The blush is a pretty satin coral and the highlight is a standard champagne. I highlighted my Cupid’s Bow, tops of the cheeks, bridge of the nose, center of my chin, and high points of the brows. I lined my lips using ColourPop Lippie Pencil ($6 on their website) in the shade Another Round (a rosey nude) and filled in the lips using ColourPop Creme Lux Lipstick (shade discontinued) in the shade Uno Mas (a medium coral demi matte).

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Final Thoughts:                                                                                                                                      I really enjoyed creating this eye look. the shades blend out so perfectly and there was no fallout, although there was some kickback in the pans. I was super excited that I got my winged liner to match on both eyes. I was really feeling this look today everything came together smoothly with out any problems. I love this lip color …. this may be my new favorite nude lip ever.

My husband’s job informed him that he will have to take a 10% cut in pay to remain working during this whole Corona thing. I am a little worried but feel blessed that at least he still has his job. The only bad part is that he will have to take a furlough for the first part of April which means I have no idea how we will get by for the first 1/2 of April… as I’m sure many others are feeling.

This is such a troubling time in the world…. I just want you all to know that I appreciate you keeping me going by visiting my blog. I pray that you are OK and that you will continue to be in good health. I just want you to know I’m here if you ever just need to vent your frustrations or voice your fears and worries. I’m only just either a comment or email away …. My email address is on my blog home page …. please don’t hesitate to shoot me a message if you just need a safe place to vent…. love you all and stay safe.

Well that’s all for now dolls. Have a great rest of your day/night. I hope and pray that you are in good spirits and that you are in good health. Remember…. Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

XOXO

March week 4 Beauty Haul

Published March 24, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

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Hey doll hey!!! How are you doing? Great I hope. Just popping in with a small beauty haul and swatches…. All swatches are on bare skin with no primer and in 1 swipe. Let’s jump into it ….

I created another ColourPop palette. It’s $24 for the 12 shadows and the zpalette. The picture on the left is without flash and the picture on the right is with flash. Each shadow on it’s own goes for $4.50 a pan.

The picture on the left is without flash and the one on the right is with flash …. the colors from left to right are: Liar Liar (a pale pink metallic), Ringer (a  champagne metallic), 20 Something (a peachy gold metallic), Bel Air (a cool taupe matte), See Stars (a medium yellow brown matte pressed pigment), and Lay Low (a soft coral matte)……

The picture on the left is without flash and the one on the right is with flash …. the colors from left to right are: Top Notch (a terracotta brown matte), Earthshine (a pinky lavender with a blue duochrome flip metallic), Manifest It (a fuchsia with pink flecks sequin pressed pigment), Latchkey (a vivid berry matte pressed pigment), Pretty Cruel (a berry mauve with gold flecks sequin), and Sleeper (an eggplant matte pressed pigment).

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ColourPop Creme Lux Lipstick $8, but discontinued now…. in the shade Uno Mas (a medium coral demi matte)

The picture on the left is with no flash and the one on the right is with flash.

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ColourPop Creme Lux Lipstick $8 in the shade Lay Over (a medium rosy beige demi matte)

 

 

The picture on the left is with no flash and the one on the right is with flash.

Well that’s all for now dolls… just wanted to pop in with some swatches of my new beauty haul …. hope you have a great rest of your day/night and that you are in good spirits and are in good health. Remember …. Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

XOXO

Taupe Eye Face of the Day

Published March 23, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hey doll hey!! How’s your day/night going? Great I hope.I’m off to a late start today. Slept in until 8:30 Am. Stayed up late watching YouTube videos. I learned how to laminate my brows at home …. I really want to try this but I have to wait till my brows grow in thicker before I try it. I still don’t have the Covid-19 test results back … My doctor said that they are still a few days to a week backed up on top of the 10 extra days that they initially states. So that’s a bit frustrating. Hubby went back to work today after a week off. He was told today that his company may have to go on temporary layoff for non essential personnel and that essential personnel may have to go on furlough for a week or two or possible take a 10% cut in pay …. so that’s a bit troublesome. Well enough of the stressful let’s talk scent and Face of the Day ….

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JLo Glow bu Jennifer Lopez. I purchased mine from Fragrencenet.com for $30 for a 3.4 fkuid ounce bottle. I enjoy this scent very much. It just doesn’t stick around long. I clock the staying power to be around 3 hours tops. But I like it enough that I don’t mind reapplying when needed. When I worked I would simply take a travel atomizer with me filled with this perfume. Top notes are Grapefruit, Mandarin, and Neroli. Middle notes are: Iris, Rose, Tuberose, Jasmine, and Orange Blossom. The scent is round out with bottom notes of: Musk, Amber, Sandalwood, and Vanilla. When I was healthy this use to be my everyday work scent. This is a fresh sweet musky scent that pairs great with a cute top and jeans and also with a cute little summer dress and flip flops. My husband really likes this scent too so I wear it often on date night. 

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Base:

I primed my face using Wet n Wild PhotoFocus Dewy Face Primer ($5.99 at Ulta) and also primed my pore areas using  Tarte Clean Slate Timeless Smoothing Primer ($39 at Ulta).  My foundation today is a combo of 2 pumps of Marc Jacobs Dew Drops Coconut Gel Highlighter ($45 at Sephora) in the shade Dew You? and 4 pumps of J Cat Beauty HD Perfection Skinsealer Foundation ($7.99 but on sale for $5 on their website) in the shade Warm Honey. I lightly color corrected my under eyes using Pixi by Petra Correction Concentrate ($12 at Target and on the Pixi Beauty website) in the shade Brightening Peach. I used 5 dots of L’Oreal Infallible Full Wear Concealer ($13.49 at Ulta) in the shade Cashmere. I set my full face using  Believe Beauty Matte Blur Loose Powder ($5 at Dollar General) in the shade Translucent and warmed up my face using ColourPop Pressed Bronzer ($8 on their website) in the shade Talk to the Palm. For touch up powder today I am using Physicians Formula Natural Defense Setting the Tone Finishing Powder ($14.99 at Target) in the shade Light.

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Eyes:                                                                                                                                                         I primed my lids using P.Louise Base ($10 pound sterling/ $12.08 USD on their website… can also be found on the Morphie website for $15) in the shade Rumour 0.5 and today I chose not to set the base. For today’s eye look I used the Urban Decay Naked Ultimate Basics Palette (was $54 but is now discontinued …. can still be found on some websites and on Amazon). For my transition shade I used the color Faith (a medium dark brown with warm yellow undertones matte). As my crease and the outer 1/3 of my mobile lid I used the shade Look Out (a warm dark brown matte). On the remaining 2/3 of my mobile lid I used the shade Pre-Game (a warm yellow matte) and then I layered the Hikari Creme Pigment ($15 on their website) in the shade Fairytale (an icy white shimmer). I then went in with just a little of the shade Extra Bitter (a warm medium copper brown with a slight reddish undertone matte) and dusted it at the top of my transition shade to add a bit more warmth in the transition. I also used this shade on the middle 1/3 of the mobile lid to blend the outer and inner 1/3 together. For the lower lash line I used more of the shade Faith (a medium dark brown with warm yellow undertones matte) and then went in with more of the shade Extra Bitter (a warm medium copper brown with a slight reddish undertone matte). I lined my lower waterlines using BH Cosmetics Power Pencil ($8 at Ulta and on their website) in the shade Beige. I highlighted my inner corners using Hikari Cosmetics Creme Pigment ($15 on their website) in the shade Honeydew (icy pink with silver flip).  I set my brows using Maybelline Great Lash Mascara ($6.99 at Ulta but I purchased mine from Amazon) in clear and then filled in my brows using Benefit Precisely My Brow Pencil ($24 at Ulta and Sephora) in the shade 4.5 and then I carved out my brow line using the BH Studio Pro Brow Highlighter ($5 on their website) on the shimmer and the matte sides and set the brow line using the shade Blow (a light peach beige satin). I popped on a pair Kiss Looks So Natural Lashes ($12 for 5 pairs at Ulta) in the style Flirty and coated my upper and lower lashes with L’Oreal Voluminous Carbon Black Mascara ($8.99 at Ulta).

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Cheeks and Lips:                                                                                                                               For blush today I used the ColourPop Pressed Powder Blush ($8 on their website) in the shade Catch My Vibe (pale baby pink matte). I highlighted my Cupid’s Bow, tops of the cheeks, bridge of the nose, center of my chin, and high points of the brows using Jouer Powder Highlighter ($24 at Sephora) in the shade Citrine (Shimmering Gold).  I lined my lips using ColourPop Lippie Pencil (only sold in the lippie pencil vault on their website) in the shade Hoopty (burgundy) and filled in the lips using ColourPop Lippie Stix (only sold in the lippie stix vault on their website) in the shade Thousand Percent  (rich chocolate cherry matte).

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Final Thoughts:                                                                                                                                      I really don’t have much to say for my final thoughts this week. I’m starting to get cabin fever as is probably most of the world right now. I had a company reach out to me to test out one of their products for review …. I will haul it and then review it once I receive it. I should be receiving my purchase from ColourPop of a palette I put together and 2 more lipsticks tomorrow so I will haul and swatch them tomorrow for you …. I did get the bad news that ColourPop has suspended their processing and distribution centers so until this Corona Virus thing is over I wont be able to swatch or haul the new Mulan Collection for you…. I will once I have received it. Also I purchased a full face of the K-Beauty brand Joah and am currently waiting for my order to be processed and shipped. I took advantage of their sale that they are currently running for buy 1 get 1 1/2 off … I got 25 items for $20 including tax and shipping.

Well that’s all for now dolls. Hope you enjoy the rest of your day/night, that you are in good health, that you are in great spirits, and that you are having a good pain day. Remember …. Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

XOXO

Week 1 Brow and Lash Update

Published March 22, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hey doll hey!!! Hope you are having a great night/day.

I’m coming to you with an quick update on my journey to fuller brows and lashes.

As you may have read in my post about me using black castor oil to aid in the growth of my lashes and brows …. I said I would update you weekly as long as I started to see improvement.

Well…. to my surprise (I went into this a bit sceptical) I have new hair growth on both my brows…. I am not really seeing a big difference in my lashes other then the fact that my lashes are now all growing upward and uniform instead of dropping and in different directions. But I did compare them to the day 1 photos and it does appear that there is in fact growth.

For my left brow I did not have hair at the tail and there was a bald spot at the arch. I now have hair growing at the tail and for the first time in about a year and 1/2 O finally have haor growth at the arch… its not a heap of long hair but when I touch it I can feel that hair has staryed to grow… its peach fuzz right now …. but it’s growth nonetheless. For my righr brow again I did not have hair at the arch and I can actually see that hair has grown at the arch as well as in the tail section.

My left brow and lashes. The lashes when compared to the first day photos do look a bit fuller and a tiny bit longer but what you can see is that there is hair at the tail and the arch appears to have hair growing
The biggest improvement by far is the right side. My lashes are in fact longer but still a little sparse…. this maybe because I had to scrub this eye a bit to get lash glue off 3 times this week so I kay have lost a few lashes. You can clearly see that my tail of the brow has longer and fuller growth and the archnow has hair where it did not have much hair on day 1.

So, so far I am seeing something happening …. I will update you again next week.

Well that’s all dolls…. stay safe and have a great rest of you night/day.

Remember …. Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

Xoxo

Why I Say Save a Spoon For a Bit of Lipstick

Published March 22, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

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Hey doll hey!!! How’s your day/night going?? Great I hope.

I have a lot of people ask me why I always say “Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick”. The reason I say this is that as a spoonie over the years I hadn’t always left spoons for self care. I would spend all my spoons, or energy for those of you who don’t know what that means. We who suffer from autoimmune illnesses call ourselves spoonies…. why you ask? Because we identify with an article by a fellow spoonie named Christine Miserandino who wrote an article entitled Spoon Theory where she explained to her friend who wanted to know what it was like to deal with an autoimmune illness. She used spoons in her explanation to symbolize the amount of energy someone with autoimmune illnesses has when they start their day and how each little thing we do takes away from this spoon supply.

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Well for many years I would waste all my spoons before I got to doing anything for myself and this caused me to suffer horrible depression and caused me to have very low self esteem. After a few years of always feeling horrible about myself I realized the things I loved doing such as home spa days, painting my nails, playing in my makeup, getting dressed in actual clothes (I would take a shower and than immediately pop myself into a fresh pair of pajamas), and simply just wearing some perfume (I thought why bother I’m stuck in the house because of this stupid illness and why waste perfume on myself when I’m only staring at the same 4 damn walls). I finally remembered that I have value and I have the right to pamper myself even if I’m only going to be resting or just being around the house. So I started to limit myself to the things I do in a day. Instead of getting up and cleaning the full house everyday (yes I use to dust and mop and vacuum and the wash, and rearrange the whole house everyday on top of all of my normal responsibilities such as cooking and dishes). I started taking some of the energy and poured it into self care… I would take my shower and then do something for myself such as my hair (instead of just pushing a brush through my hair and pulling it into a bun) or giving myself a pedicure or spending time doing a face mask…. slowly this morphed into me wanting to do more beauty related things for my blog …. this led to me doing my makeup every day which in turn helped with my depression …. when you look put together, you just feel better. This led me to  want to dress up more, instead of just living in pjs or a pair of my husband’s sweatpants.

I conclude every post with the tag line “Remember… Save a spoon for a little lipstick” as a way to remind my fellow spoonies to save time and energy for themselves.

This is so important for all spoonies to do. We tend to put the needs of everyone else before ourselves… we then get lost in all the daily coming and goings and before you know it we are a bit sadder, a bit more frustrated, a bit more hopeless….. this effects our self esteem and our mental health.

Now I’m not saying applying lipstick will instantly get rid of our depression and boost our self esteem… but it starts to help… just taking a few minutes and a spoon or two out of our days to get do something as simple as giving ourselves a face mask treatment or giving ourselves a new hair style or just simply popping on some makeup starts to make us feel happier and more put together…. this can lead to not wanting to wear pjs or sweats all day …. it starts to boost your self confidence and in turn improves your mood.

Now, this wont be a “first time you try it you’ll be all better” type approach to better mental health…. this is a “taking time out for me, because I’m worth it” type approach.

See when I first got sick …. I was down all the time. I felt useless and as if I was a burden. I couldn’t even shower on my own … my husband had to help me shower because I was so weak and in so much pain that just getting into the tub was a huge feat. By the time I was done soaping my body up and had no energy left to wash my hair.

On day hubby came home with a shower chair and said we were going to do this together…. he would hop in the shower with me…. help me lather up and whilst I was sitting on the shower chair he would take the responsibility to wash my hair. I still only wore buns for most of the time… except for on moderately good days where I could do my hair and makeup…. even though it took a long time to do the makeup portion of my day…. with tons of starts and stops.

I would get so frustrated because I would cook dinner and not have enough energy to do the dishes.. or get to the wash… or even make my bed (on the good days where I was able to get out of bed).

I started to get depressed because I hadn’t the spoons to visit friends or go to a movie, or even go out for dinner. We had Disney season passes … and I had no energy to even attempt to go to the happiest place on earth. I started to beat myself up because I no longer could tackle all of the house work in 1 go.

I never liked going out because I hadn’t the energy to put myself together … I hated leaving the house in pjs or sweats and hated that I always wore my hair in a bun with no makeup…. makeup was always a big part of my soul …. I am seriously passionate about makeup …. it’s my favorite hobby.

As time went on I started to adjust to the medications and treatments for Fibromyalgia and Rheumatoid Arthritis and was able to do more… but I still wasn’t able to get to do things for myself …. this is when I realized I had to figuratively die to my old life and begin to accept and improve my new life as a spoonie.

This is when I took time to see just how much I could do before my spoons were gone and learned to adjust life so that there was enough spoons for both myself and my household.

I learned it’s ok to do the wash and not fold it or put it away until the next day (although there are some times that when I do the wash I end up in a flair and have to put off putting the clothes away for a few day …. and I have learned over the years that this is OK… it’s OK to need to rest …. allow yourself to rest …. you deserve to rest). I learned that I could ask for help with the cooking and washing up afterward. I also learned to take short cuts … such as purchasing paper plates and cups and disposable utensils to make washing up quicker and easier for me. I learned to accept that it’s OK to serve left overs the next day if I am having a spoon shortage. I learned that it’s OK to dust biweekly instead of everyday … I learned it’s OK to wash my hair every 2 to 3 days instead of everyday …. in fact my hair has never been better …. apparently forgoing washing my hair for a few days (even though I still brush it and put it together nicely) actually leaves my hair softer and easier to manage.

I still longed for my old life but set out to find life hacks to help me get back to as close to my old life as I could.

One of those things was implementing more self care  things into my daily routine.

I started to do the wash weekly instead of daily…. vacuuming weekly instead of daily …. I learned that I could make my bed daily without having to furnish the bed with all the extra decorative pillows and duvets , that just simply fixing up the bed with the bed sheets and cover where OK. I learned that not every meal has to be a 4 course extravaganza … that just a simple steak and mash potatoes was good enough. That dessert didn’t have to be homemade every night….. dessert could be a weekend adventure and that I didn’t need to make it from scratch if I didn’t have the extra spoons for it. I learned that if I needed to soak the pots and pans (since we now were using paper plates and cups and disposable utensils) for the night …. this was OK ….

I  simply learned to let go of my super structured life and just relax into the new life of needing to watch my spoon count for the day ….

Before I knew it I had extra spoons that I could use for my own self worth. I was able to take time to do hair styles for myself … take time to sit down and play in my makeup and feel good about that ….. before I knew it I was waiting to wear outfits instead of PJs (even thought there are still days where I just don’t have the spoon count to get dressed up … and that still is OK …. I allow myself the bummy days when I need them). I was wanting to take the time to sit down a blog more … I found myself feeling confident again, happy again, more put together again.

This is the reason I tag line each post with “Remember save a spoon for a bit of lipstick”. It’s to remind my fellow spoonies to save some energy for something for themselves …. To save a spoon to do something for their own well being … not just whatever one else needs. To take the time to practice self care …. even if it’s just a simple pedicure or manicure …. it’s 1 thing out of all the things you do that is simply just for you …. you DESERVE to do something for yourself too. I chose to do my makeup for myself because it makes me happy and I love playing around with looks …. that’s the thing I choose to save my special spoon for …. so even if you don’t like makeup save a special spoon for YOURSELF….. or are just starting out with makeup use that special spoon to practice and hone your makeup skills ….. it could be anything …. you could use that spoon to crochet or knit …. to do a puzzle or read a book …. you could use it to shave your legs or color your hair …. use that special spoon to go for coffee with a friend or go see a movie, or pop into the mall for a bit of retail therapy….the possibilities are endless … the important take away is that you save a special spoon for an activity that is just for you …. So when I use my tag line …. I am in no way trying to down play that we have limited energy as an autoimmune person … I’m simply reminding you to save some of that energy to treat yourself well.

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Well…. that’s all for this post dolls…. I hope an pray you are having a good day/night …. that you are low in pain and are in good spirits….

Remember dolls …. Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

XOXO

 

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