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Why I Say Save a Spoon For a Bit of Lipstick

Published March 22, 2020 by aspooniesmakeupbag

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Hey doll hey!!! How’s your day/night going?? Great I hope.

I have a lot of people ask me why I always say “Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick”. The reason I say this is that as a spoonie over the years I hadn’t always left spoons for self care. I would spend all my spoons, or energy for those of you who don’t know what that means. We who suffer from autoimmune illnesses call ourselves spoonies…. why you ask? Because we identify with an article by a fellow spoonie named Christine Miserandino who wrote an article entitled Spoon Theory where she explained to her friend who wanted to know what it was like to deal with an autoimmune illness. She used spoons in her explanation to symbolize the amount of energy someone with autoimmune illnesses has when they start their day and how each little thing we do takes away from this spoon supply.

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Well for many years I would waste all my spoons before I got to doing anything for myself and this caused me to suffer horrible depression and caused me to have very low self esteem. After a few years of always feeling horrible about myself I realized the things I loved doing such as home spa days, painting my nails, playing in my makeup, getting dressed in actual clothes (I would take a shower and than immediately pop myself into a fresh pair of pajamas), and simply just wearing some perfume (I thought why bother I’m stuck in the house because of this stupid illness and why waste perfume on myself when I’m only staring at the same 4 damn walls). I finally remembered that I have value and I have the right to pamper myself even if I’m only going to be resting or just being around the house. So I started to limit myself to the things I do in a day. Instead of getting up and cleaning the full house everyday (yes I use to dust and mop and vacuum and the wash, and rearrange the whole house everyday on top of all of my normal responsibilities such as cooking and dishes). I started taking some of the energy and poured it into self care… I would take my shower and then do something for myself such as my hair (instead of just pushing a brush through my hair and pulling it into a bun) or giving myself a pedicure or spending time doing a face mask…. slowly this morphed into me wanting to do more beauty related things for my blog …. this led to me doing my makeup every day which in turn helped with my depression …. when you look put together, you just feel better. This led me to  want to dress up more, instead of just living in pjs or a pair of my husband’s sweatpants.

I conclude every post with the tag line “Remember… Save a spoon for a little lipstick” as a way to remind my fellow spoonies to save time and energy for themselves.

This is so important for all spoonies to do. We tend to put the needs of everyone else before ourselves… we then get lost in all the daily coming and goings and before you know it we are a bit sadder, a bit more frustrated, a bit more hopeless….. this effects our self esteem and our mental health.

Now I’m not saying applying lipstick will instantly get rid of our depression and boost our self esteem… but it starts to help… just taking a few minutes and a spoon or two out of our days to get do something as simple as giving ourselves a face mask treatment or giving ourselves a new hair style or just simply popping on some makeup starts to make us feel happier and more put together…. this can lead to not wanting to wear pjs or sweats all day …. it starts to boost your self confidence and in turn improves your mood.

Now, this wont be a “first time you try it you’ll be all better” type approach to better mental health…. this is a “taking time out for me, because I’m worth it” type approach.

See when I first got sick …. I was down all the time. I felt useless and as if I was a burden. I couldn’t even shower on my own … my husband had to help me shower because I was so weak and in so much pain that just getting into the tub was a huge feat. By the time I was done soaping my body up and had no energy left to wash my hair.

On day hubby came home with a shower chair and said we were going to do this together…. he would hop in the shower with me…. help me lather up and whilst I was sitting on the shower chair he would take the responsibility to wash my hair. I still only wore buns for most of the time… except for on moderately good days where I could do my hair and makeup…. even though it took a long time to do the makeup portion of my day…. with tons of starts and stops.

I would get so frustrated because I would cook dinner and not have enough energy to do the dishes.. or get to the wash… or even make my bed (on the good days where I was able to get out of bed).

I started to get depressed because I hadn’t the spoons to visit friends or go to a movie, or even go out for dinner. We had Disney season passes … and I had no energy to even attempt to go to the happiest place on earth. I started to beat myself up because I no longer could tackle all of the house work in 1 go.

I never liked going out because I hadn’t the energy to put myself together … I hated leaving the house in pjs or sweats and hated that I always wore my hair in a bun with no makeup…. makeup was always a big part of my soul …. I am seriously passionate about makeup …. it’s my favorite hobby.

As time went on I started to adjust to the medications and treatments for Fibromyalgia and Rheumatoid Arthritis and was able to do more… but I still wasn’t able to get to do things for myself …. this is when I realized I had to figuratively die to my old life and begin to accept and improve my new life as a spoonie.

This is when I took time to see just how much I could do before my spoons were gone and learned to adjust life so that there was enough spoons for both myself and my household.

I learned it’s ok to do the wash and not fold it or put it away until the next day (although there are some times that when I do the wash I end up in a flair and have to put off putting the clothes away for a few day …. and I have learned over the years that this is OK… it’s OK to need to rest …. allow yourself to rest …. you deserve to rest). I learned that I could ask for help with the cooking and washing up afterward. I also learned to take short cuts … such as purchasing paper plates and cups and disposable utensils to make washing up quicker and easier for me. I learned to accept that it’s OK to serve left overs the next day if I am having a spoon shortage. I learned that it’s OK to dust biweekly instead of everyday … I learned it’s OK to wash my hair every 2 to 3 days instead of everyday …. in fact my hair has never been better …. apparently forgoing washing my hair for a few days (even though I still brush it and put it together nicely) actually leaves my hair softer and easier to manage.

I still longed for my old life but set out to find life hacks to help me get back to as close to my old life as I could.

One of those things was implementing more self care  things into my daily routine.

I started to do the wash weekly instead of daily…. vacuuming weekly instead of daily …. I learned that I could make my bed daily without having to furnish the bed with all the extra decorative pillows and duvets , that just simply fixing up the bed with the bed sheets and cover where OK. I learned that not every meal has to be a 4 course extravaganza … that just a simple steak and mash potatoes was good enough. That dessert didn’t have to be homemade every night….. dessert could be a weekend adventure and that I didn’t need to make it from scratch if I didn’t have the extra spoons for it. I learned that if I needed to soak the pots and pans (since we now were using paper plates and cups and disposable utensils) for the night …. this was OK ….

I  simply learned to let go of my super structured life and just relax into the new life of needing to watch my spoon count for the day ….

Before I knew it I had extra spoons that I could use for my own self worth. I was able to take time to do hair styles for myself … take time to sit down and play in my makeup and feel good about that ….. before I knew it I was waiting to wear outfits instead of PJs (even thought there are still days where I just don’t have the spoon count to get dressed up … and that still is OK …. I allow myself the bummy days when I need them). I was wanting to take the time to sit down a blog more … I found myself feeling confident again, happy again, more put together again.

This is the reason I tag line each post with “Remember save a spoon for a bit of lipstick”. It’s to remind my fellow spoonies to save some energy for something for themselves …. To save a spoon to do something for their own well being … not just whatever one else needs. To take the time to practice self care …. even if it’s just a simple pedicure or manicure …. it’s 1 thing out of all the things you do that is simply just for you …. you DESERVE to do something for yourself too. I chose to do my makeup for myself because it makes me happy and I love playing around with looks …. that’s the thing I choose to save my special spoon for …. so even if you don’t like makeup save a special spoon for YOURSELF….. or are just starting out with makeup use that special spoon to practice and hone your makeup skills ….. it could be anything …. you could use that spoon to crochet or knit …. to do a puzzle or read a book …. you could use it to shave your legs or color your hair …. use that special spoon to go for coffee with a friend or go see a movie, or pop into the mall for a bit of retail therapy….the possibilities are endless … the important take away is that you save a special spoon for an activity that is just for you …. So when I use my tag line …. I am in no way trying to down play that we have limited energy as an autoimmune person … I’m simply reminding you to save some of that energy to treat yourself well.

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Well…. that’s all for this post dolls…. I hope an pray you are having a good day/night …. that you are low in pain and are in good spirits….

Remember dolls …. Save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

XOXO

 

Green Smokey Eyed Face of the Day

Published December 24, 2019 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hello dolls! I hope you are having a wonderful Christmas Eve…. It’s cold and rainy here in Florida and my Fibromyalgia is being effected by it.

Today was my Olaplex hair care day so I had to lay down for a little after doing my hair. I was seriously thinking of skipping my makeup today but it’s really the thing that makes me feel happy, I love the process of putting on my makeup…. So I decided I would just take my time and do the best I could.I had planed to do a gold green and red eye look today but it would have taken a lot more energy than I could spare today… so I changed the outfit I will be wearing to our Christmas Memorial Party to just a pair of jeans and this super cute Green top…. so I thought OK …. just green today….. so let’s jump into the face of the day…..

BASE: I used 2 primers today …. Makeup Forever Step 1 Skin Equalizer ($17 at Sephora) to blur my pores, and BECCA Backlight Priming Filter ($39 at Ulta and Sephora) to give me a bit more glow (I forgot to do my nightly moisturizing routine last night so I needed a little more dew to my look). I color corrected (yup another sleepless night) with my Tarte CC Undereye Corrector ($25 at Ulta and Sephora) in the color Light-Medium, and concealed my under eyes with ELF HD Lifting Concealer ($4 on their website) in the color Light. For foundation today I chose NARS All Day Luminous Weightless Foundation ($49 at Sephora) in the color Light 5 Fiji. I set my full face with Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Finish Skin Protecting Micro-Powder ($45 on Beautylish’s website) in the color 2 Medium. I bronzed my face with NYX Matte Bronzer ($10 at Ulta) in the color Deep Tan.

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EYES: I primed my eyes with Tarte Shape Tape ($25 at Ulta) in the color Light-Medium Honey. The only palette I used today was the BH Ultimate Matte 42 Color Shadow Palette ($28 on their website). I set the Shape Tape with the 1st shade on the 3rd row (a cream matte). For my 1st transition shade was the 4th color on the 3rd row (a yellow toned orange matte) followed by the 4th shade on the 4th row (a peach toned tan matte). For my Crease shade I used the 3rd shade of the 4th row (a mid-toned brown matte)…. I used a bit more of this color on the first 1/3 and last 1/3 of my lid to contour it a bit. For my lids I combined 3 colors (2 from the palette and 1 from Urban Decay)…. On the back of my hand I mixed Urban Decay single shadow ($20 at Ulta) in the color Loaded (a blacked emerald with true green reflect shimmer) with the 5th shade of the last row (a blue toned green matte) and the 4th shade of the last row (a deep forest green matte). I then deepened the outer v with the 6th shade of the 5th row (a deep true brown matte). On my lower lash line I used 4th shade of the 4th row (a peach toned tan matte) as my drop shadow and then I deepened the lower lash line with the 6th shade of the 5th row (a deep true brown matte). I lined my water line with NYX Faux Whites Eye Liner ($8 at Ulta) in the color Linen. I highlighted my inner corners with Urban Decay single shadow ($20 at Ulta) in Midnight Cowboy (a pale pink with silver glitter). For my brows I used ELF Ultra precise Brow Pencil ($5 on their website) and Wow Brow ($4 on their website) in the color Dark Brown. I highlighted my brows with the BH Studio Pro Brow Highlighter ($5 on their website) on the matte side…. and set the highlighter with the 1st shade of the 1st row (a vanilla white). I primed my lashes with Loreal Voluminous Primer ($5.99 at Target) and chose Charlotte Tilbury Full Fat Lashes ($29 on the Beautylish website) in the color Glossy Black.

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CHEEKS and Lips: I chose a soft color today for my blush… Tarte Amazonian Clay 12-Hour Blush ($29 at Ulta) in the color Captivating (a pale true coral matte). I highlighted the tops of my cheek bones, temples, brow bones, and Cupid’s Bow with Milani After Glow ($10 at Ulta) in the color 01 Strobelight (a peachy champagne). I lined my lips with Charlotte Tilbury Lip Cheat ($22 on the Beautylish website) in the color Pillow Talk (a pink nude) and filled my lips in with Charlotte Tilbury K.I.S.S.I.N.G ($34 on the Beautylish Website) in the color Bitch Perfect (a peachy nude cream).

 

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Final Thoughts ….

BECCA Backlight Priming Filter: A+++                                                                                         Out of all of the glow primers out there this is hands down my favorite primer! It leaves the skin looking radiant with out looking like a disco ball or looking greasy. I have been known to use this primer on days where I am not wearing any other makeup besides mascara and lip gloss…. I can’t tell you just how amazing this product this is … It gives any foundation a lit from within glow to it.

ELF HD Lifting Concealer: A   I keep forgetting I have this concealer …. I find I really like the look it gives my under eyes. It only comes in 3 shades and none of those shades are deep enough for our deep skinned beauties. I’m running out of this concealer so I will have to place an order soon …. This one remineds me of the NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer, except the ELF one sets perfectly with just a tinny bit of powder.

NARS All Day Luminous Weightless Foundation: A                                                            Comes in 20 shades with 9 shades for deeper skin. It’s a full coverage dewy foundation. It remains tacky so you will need to set it with powder …. in fact it’s so tacky I always have to set my face 2 times. I like this foundation a lot and will probably repurchase it once I am out of it.

Charlotte Tilbury Full Fat Lashes: B+                                                                                          This is a nice mascara, but it’s too natural looking … it doesn’t lengthen or thicken the lashes at all… I like it for natural days…. for glam days it needs a primer. I don’t know if I will repurchase this one or not just yet.

Tarte Amazonian Clay 12-Hour Blush: A+++                                                                                    I have said this before but this is my favorite formula for blush … It’s creamy, finely milled, and never chalky or patchy. There isn’t any crazy pigmentation here … it’s just right …. and the colors are so amazing… I own several and will be purchasing other colors soon.

Milani After Glow: B++  These highlighter are super powerful but they have glitter in them and emphasize every imperfection… I like this highlighter a lot for my cupid’s bow and my brow bones, but on my temples and cheek bones it’s just too much and i always forget to use a light hand. I may repurchase this one once I hit pan …. I’ll have to wait and see if there are any new releases with less glitter.

Well that’s all for now dolls… I hope you have an amazing Christmas and that you are found with plenty of spoons and as close to pain free as possible.

As always remember to save a spoon for a bit of makeup ….

XOXO

Coral Face of the Day

Published December 23, 2019 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Morning dolls. How are you doing today? I woke early in pain today… It’s pouring outside and my pain level is through the roof. I started to think, I’m just going to take it easy today. Maybe I wont do my makeup today and I’ll just do a hair mask and a face mask today…. Then I thought but doing my makeup always makes my spirits happy… so I jumped in the shower and sat down and did my makeup….

I’m low on spoons today so I couldn’t wash my hair …. I’ll do it tonight before bed …. so I used my trusty Batiste Dry Shampoo ($8.99 at Ulta) and a mess of hair spray to do my hair today.

As a Fibromyalgia sufferer we only have a limited amount of energy, and that energy decreases so much when we are having a high pain day…. we often have to cut corners or just skip something in order to just get by for that day…. Today is one of those days.

Well on to the face of the day ….

BASE: I’m trying to use up my It Cosmetics Bye Bye Pores Primer ($38 on their website) so that’s what I used today. I woke up with so much darkness under my eyes that I really had to pack on the Tarte CC Undereye Corrector ($25 at Ulta) in Light-Medium. I was a little dry around my eyes today so I stuck with my NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer ($30 at Ulta) in the color Medium 1 Custard. Because I am low on spoons today I chose a foundation that I know always works up easy… Hourglass Seamless Finish Foundation Stick ($46 at Sephora) in the color Buff. I set my whole face with the Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Finish Skin Perfecting Micro-Powder ($45 on the Beautylish website) in the color 2 Medium. I again chose a bronzer that needed little effort to work in to the skin … I chose Chanel Soleil Tan De Chanel ($50 on the Chanel website) in Universal Bronze.

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EYES: I started to skip out on doing my eye shadow but I was looking very pale today so just chose to do a simple low key look today. I primed, as always, with my Tarte Shape Tape ($25 at Ulta) in the color Light Medium Honey. I picked my BH Cosmetics Ultimate Matte 42 Color Shadow Palette ($28 on their website) as my palette today since the shadows work up so fast and easy. I set my Shape Tape with the first color of the 3rd row (a medium pale cream matte). As my 1st transition shade I chose the 2nd color of the 3rd row (a pale coral peach matte). I chose the 4th shadow of the 1st row (a deep orange coral matte) as my second transition shade. I deepened my crease, outer v, and outer 1/3 of my lid with the 3rd shadow of the 4th row ( a medium true brown matte). I added a bit of definition to my outer v by  mixing the 6th shadow of the 5th row (a dusty true mid toned brown matte) with the last color of the last row (a dusty true black matte). I skipped liner today and I skipped doing a drop shadow on the lower lash line, instead I just added a bit of definition on the lower lash line with the 3rd shadow of the 4th row (a medium true brown matte). On the inner 2/3 of my lid I used Hikari Cream Pigment ($15 on the Hikari website) in the color Honey Dew and for my inner corner highlight I used Urban Decay Single Shadow ($20 at Ulta) in the color Midnight Cowboy. I did my brows the same way I’ve been doing them this week …. I used Professional Brow Powder ($10 at Oh La La Brow Bar) in the color Dark Brow and ELF Wow Brow ($4 on their website) in the color Dark Brown. I highlighted my brow bone with the BH Cosmetics Studio Pro Brow Highlighter ($5 on their website) on the matte side and set it with the 1st shade of the 1st row of the BH Cosmetics Palette (a vanilla white matte). I had left my favorite mascara in the other room so I just picked out the one I forgot I purchased when I did my full face of NYX products…. NYX On The Rise Volume Liftscara ($7.70 at Ulta) in the color black.

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CHEEKS and LIPS: I already had my BH Cosmetics Classic Blush 10 Color Blush Palette ($12 on their website) at my makeup desk so I chose the 3rd color on the 2nd row (a soft pinky coral matte). I chose the NYX Born to Glow Highlighting Palette ($25 at Ulta) and chose the 2nd color on the 2nd row (a pale gold shimmer highlighter). I highlighted the tops of my cheeks, temples, brow bone, and cupid’s bow. I picked Loreal 6 Hr Infallible Never Fail Lip Liner (6.99 at Walmart) in the color Coral (a true toned coral) and I filled my full lips with this liner. Then I chose NYX Butter Gloss ($5 at Ulta) in the color Creme Brulee (a milky pink coral gloss).

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Final Thoughts….

Hourglass Seamless Finish Foundation Stick: A+++                                                                 This foundation comes in shades with 9 dedicated to deeper skin tones. You get .25 ounces of product, but a little goes a long way with this one …. like 1 swipe for each cheek and the forehead …. and that gives enough extra for the rest of the face and neck. It’s billed as a full coverage that is water proof and long wearing. This is 100% my favorite foundation! I forgot I had it in my collection. It fell off my foundation shelf when I was looking for a low maintenance BB cream and I remembered how simple it was to use this one. It’s a demi matte foundation with great coverage ( I would say it’s more a medium full coverage) The color is spot on my tone. This foundation doesn’t set down , you do need to use a powder to set it , but it leaves the skin looking so succulent, so healthy looking that I don’t mind needing a bit of powder. I remember this was the foundation I chose every time I traveled anywhere. It was the foundation I used on very important days too.

Chanel Soleil Tan De Chanel: A+++!!!                                                                                                   I gush over this bronzer every time I use it I know… but I can’t help it! This bronzer is that good!! It’s the perfect tone. It’s a cream to powder formula (normally I hate cream products but this one melts into the skin so flawlessly that it’s a joy to use.). This bronzer warms up the face so wonderfully… it’s the only bronzer I’ve ever used that looks like a tan, not like makeup. If you want to spurge on something special for yourself , consider making this your high ticket product., you wont regret it.

BH Cosmetics Ultimate Matte 42 Color Shadow Palette: A++                                                       I love that there is a palette out there that can handle any look you want to do. This palette has all the best of the neutral world and has great pops of color. For a drug store palette these highly pigmented mattes are creamy, finely milled, and blend like a dream. Unlike other palettes, this palette’s mattes can be layered on top of each other without loosing the color payoff of each color… in other words … they don’t muddle together.

Hikari Cream Pigment: A++                                                                                                                 I don’t own many cream products, I hate the way they look on me, but this cream pigment is amazing!!! It’s very creamy but applies like a powder. It’s the perfect shade for a lid or inner corner highlight. There are 21 shades to chose from … ranging from dewy to smokey …. and the price tag isn’t bad for the quality you get with this pigment.

Urban Decay Single Shadow * specifically Midnight Cowboy *: A-                                            If you have been reading my blog for any period of time you know by now I HATE GLITTER. But Midnight Cowboy is such a beautiful color that I just deal with the glitter in it. Urban Decay single shadows come in 63 colors, of which I own two, Midnight Cowboy and Loaded ( a deep emerald I use around Christmas time … some matte, satin, and shimmer (with glitter). A little of this shade goes a long way and it really brightens up any look.

NYX On The Rise Volume Liftscara: D                                                                                               I really hated working with this mascara. It left my eyelashes crunchy and lifeless. I also hate the applicator brush… it’s one of those plastic bristle brushes, I can’t stand the way it applied…  I’ll try to use it up but I more than likely will be throwing this one away.

NYX Born to Glow Highlighting Palette: B-                                                                                        I love the color of these highlighters but once again …. GLITTER!!!! It’s finely milled, not chunky like other highlighters, but again I just don’t like glitter… and this highlighter picks up every imperfection of the cheeks. It’s still pretty in color tone so I’ll use it up but I wont repurchase.

Loreal 6Hr Infallible Never Fail Lip Liner: A+                                                                          This color comes in 8 shades… of which I own 1… Coral. This liner is the perfect consistency… It’s not too waxy not too creamy …. it’s a perfect mix of both. I normally use it to fill in my lips or contour my lips and then I use a gloss over top … It lasts a long time too. I am thinking of picking up a couple of back ups of this shade …. I don’t really like any of the other shades.

NYX Butter Gloss: A+++                                                                                                                  This gloss comes in 32 shades. I own 5. I use to own them all but when I de-cluttered my stash when we were moving I passed them on to my niece. I am going to pick up more shades shortly… It’s the perfect formula… not at all sticky, not at all greasy feeling… it doesn’t travel outside the lip line…. the pigmentation is a medium pigmentation so you still see a little skin underneath so if you want more of a color payoff you will need to cancel out your lips by using a foundation, concealer, or face powder. This is a great little lip gloss.

Well that’s all for now babies … Tomorrow’s and Wednesday’s Face of the Day may be posted on Thursday …. Not sure if I will have the time to post before the Holiday Memorial tomorrow, and I may be out of spoons on Thursday …. but I will try and post them as soon as possible….

Remember … Save a spoon for a bit of makeup ….

XOXO

 

Radiofrequency Ablation Update

Published December 20, 2019 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hi dolls. So it’s the day after my Radiofrequency Ablation procedure and I am st ill hurting pretty badly.

The day of the procedure was pretty intense. It started with anesthesia team. They had a hard time putting a line in. My veins kept collapsing. It took 7 tries to finally get a line put in and that line was in my wrist…. boy did that hurt. Today my veins are all bruised and sore and the site on my wrist is very tender.

Next instead of putting my under right away they gave me local anesthesia , this way I could still be awake when the probes were in place to make sure they were in the right position. When the probes hit the nerve that is to be burned it stings a little… it was very uncomfortable.  They then injected me with a numbing agent which burns when it goes in.

Then I am put under anesthesia and don’t remember anything until I was back in my room with the nurse standing over me asking if I’d like some apple juice. I didn’t feel any pain just then because the numbing agent was still working.

The car ride home was a bit uncomfortable. Every pothole killed me. Then it was off to bed. For some reason after anesthesia I sleep for a few hours when I get home.

When I woke up I could feel the pain… and boy was there pain…. I had to lay on my side to keep from aggravating my procedure site. The pressure I felt was intense, even laying on the other hip I felt the pressure.

I tried a ice pack but that just made the pain worse so I just chose to ride out the healing process.

I babied myself the whole day, resting and binge watching the DC Universe’s Titans. I fell asleep for the night around 11 (it was hard to get to sleep because of the pain).

Flash forward to this morning. I woke up hurting because somehow in the middle of the night I had flipped over onto the side I get the procedure in. I needed my husband’s help to get out of bed today and to shower because I can’t bend over just now.

I decided to do my makeup anyway, and that took forever because I had to stop and rest for a little because the pressure on my hip area was bad.

Today I will baby my hip to give it just 1 more day to heal, normally I am not hurting this bad the day after Radiofrequency Ablation …. it has to be that I was sleeping on the site, but it is what it is and I’ll just have to round with the punches.

Today I can take some Tylenol for the pain, which I have already done and I will rest the rest of the day.

By tomorrow I will be feeling much better and by Sunday I will be able to bend all the way over and touch my toes.

Yes, there is a ton of pain that comes with Radiofrequency Ablation , but the outcome (after the healing) is so worth the little bit of time I spend in pain. I’m able to have mobility and I’m able to sit up for the most part.

The days before having Radiofrequency Ablation I couldn’t sit up right for more than an hour at a time without hurting so much.

Radiofrequency Ablation definitely gives me a better quality life.

Well that’s all for now dolls, hope your day is good.

Remember save a spoon for a bit of makeup.

XOXO

No Face of the Day Today Because ….

Published December 19, 2019 by aspooniesmakeupbag

**** I am writing this at 4 pm on Tuesday since I will be unable to sit up after my surgery, I wanted to make sure that you knew about the procedure and the reason there will not be a face of the day post on Thursday. ****

 

Good morning beauties. I will not be doing a face of the day today. I am having Radiofrequency Ablation today and will be in pain after the surgery.

Basically my pain management doctor will be going in and burning the nerves in my lower back near my hips to help reduce the pain I get from the Fibromyalgia.

They give me anesthesia and once I’m under they take small electric rod needles and place them near my spin where the nerves are. They send and electric pulse through the needles into the nerves and that burns the nerve severing the nerve and allowing me to feel pain free in that area for 6 months. Well, basically pain free anyway. If I am standing or sitting for too long I still feel pain in that area, but at least for the most part I am pain free in the hip area.

This procedure only lasts 6 months, so every 6 months I have to undergo a new round of Radiofrequency Ablation (RFA).

I am very grateful for our health insurance as for the most part I do not pay anything to have it done. However if I haven’t hit my out of pocket expenses for the year the RFA does cost $100 a round and I get 2 done… 1 hip gets done at a time to allow me to have mobility while I heal from the surgery.

This is an out patient surgery and the recovery time is very fast… I’m normally in pain the whole rest of that day and most of the day after. I do get minimal bruising that typically goes away after a day or two.

For any of my fellow spoonies out there who suffers from lower back pain that radiates out toward the limbs I would recommend this procedure 100%!!

My quality of life has improved so much since I have been doing the RFA.

I’ve been getting it done for 3 years now. At first they didn’t use anesthesia, they would use a local anesthetic, so I was awake during the procedure. They would inject the anesthetic right into the nerve so it hurt a little while they did this, it also hurt when the injection rods were placed into the nerve ending…. but after the rods are in place it didn’t hurt as much.

For a Fibromyalgia spoonie we feel pain on a whole other level, so the pain I felt during the surgery was nothing compared to the pain I felt without taking treatment.

For more information on RFA talk to you pain management specialist. You can also get the gist  of what RFA is here -> RFA on Web MD

For those of you suffering with pain due to Fibromyalgia or Lupus or any other spoonie illness looking for a good pain management center that treats your symptoms without throwing more pain meds at you … If you live in the Orlando Florida area I recommend Florida Pain Relief Group  .

Well that’s all for now loves …. I hope you are finding the day with plenty of spoons and as pain free as you can be.

Remember dolls always save a spoon for a bit of lip gloss….

XOXO

 

 

E.L.F. Makeup Review and Face of the Day

Published December 4, 2019 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Good morning doll babies. It’s extremely cold here in Florida today. With cold there is pain for fibromyalgia sufferers. My pain level is  9 today which means I will be practicing self care and resting today. With that said I chose to do a low maintenance makeup today. It’s not full on glam but I think it turned out cute. I know my hair looks put together, it really isn’t all I did was put it in a twisted bun last night and then I took it down and ran my fingers through it… that’s it, it’s my go to thing for when I’m in pain so I don’t look a hot mess the next day.

The makeup I am using today are mostly all new products for me and all are from the E.L.F. cosmetics line.

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All New Products to Me

I didn’t buy a primer because I own 2 of E.L.F.’s primers, however I couldn’t use either as both are expired. I had forgotten that I DID however purchase their Poreless Putty Primer, so I should have used that one and I will review that primer in tomorrow’s face of the day … and I really need to repurchase the two primers that went off as I really do enjoy them. I didn’t purchase an eyeliner because I find that I just do not like the eyeliners in their line as is the case with their mascara… I just don’t like their mascaras…. it’s a preference issue and not a quality issue.  I find the E.L.F. eyeliners to be too waxy and too dry for my tender eye area and as for the mascara I find their mascaras to be too flaky for me.

Now on to the face of the day and makeup review ….

The Face of the Day…..

Base: The primer I picked today was Too faced Hangover RX ($34 at Ulta, Sephora, and the Too Faced website). I used E.L.F. BB Cream SPF 20 ($6 on the ELF website) in the color Nude. For concealer I am wearing their HD Lifting Concealer ($4 on their website). To set my bb cream I used the E.L.F. Sheer Tint Finishing Powder ($6 on their website) in the color Light/Medium.  As always I set my under eye I used the Smooth and Set under eye setting powder ($4 on their website). I used the E.L.F. Contour Palette ($8 on their website) in the color light/medium as my bronzer today.

 

Eyes: To prime my eyes I used, as always, my Tarte Shape Tape ($19 at Ulta). I used the New Classics eye shadow palette ($14 on their website). To set my Shape Tape I used the color Creme. My first transition color is Truffle and my second transition is Darling which I also used on the outer 1/2 of my lid. For my crease color I chose Muse. The outer v was darkened by Earth which I also used on the outer 1/3 of my lid. On the inner 1/2 of my lid I used Beloved and then I used Glamour over top of Beloved on the inner 1/3. For my brow bone highlight I used Blanc and my inner corner highlight is Cosmo. i used a combination of Noir and Earth as my eyeliner and on my lower lash line I used Darling and Earth. On my lower water line I used NYX Faux Whites ($8 at Ulta and NYX’s website) in the color Linen.The mascara I chose was The Balm What’s Your Type? ($19 on The Balm website). I switched it up with my brows today. I used E.L.F. Ultra Precise Brow Pencil ($5 on their website) in deep brown paired with E.L.F. Wow Brow ($4 on their website) also in deep brown

 

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With Flash

Cheeks and Lips:  I used the E.L.F. Illuminating Palette ($8 on their website). For blush I used their powder blush palette ($8 on their website) in light and I used the second color on the top. Finally I used their lip liner and blending brush ($3 on their website) in the color nude pink and paired it with their high shine liquid lip gloss ($4 on their website).

The Review ….

From what I remember on the ELF primers they are pretty good. The down side is they seem to go off too fast. I have had the 2 that I picked for only 3 months. It could be because I purchased them at Walmart and Walmart doesn’t always keep track of their expiration dates. I am looking forward to trying the pore primer! I have heard great things about it.

The BB Cream is a thin formula that gives you light coverage. Unlike most BB creams with SPF in them, this BB cream doesn’t have a scent and isn’t greasy. It’s pretty good. One dollop is all that is needed. It melds into the skin flawlessly and blended like a dream. However, like most BB creams, it does need to be set in place with a powder. It comes in 6 shades, 1 being a deep shade for dark skin. They do offer 3 color foundation adjusting creams that could help darker skinned lovelies find a shade that’s right for them.

The HD Lifting Concealer is one that I owned and have repurchased several times. The down side is that it only comes in 3 shades, none of which are even close enough for deeper skin. The upside? This concealer looks amazing under the eyes! It makes the skin look glowing and bright and flawless! It doesn’t last from morning to night, unless you set it with a powder.

E.L.F. Sheer Tint Finishing Powder is new to me. I never have tried an ELF powder because I’m so obsessed with the Laura Mercier one. This powder is silky. It comes in 5 shadeds, 2 that are for darker skin. I did find that by noon I had to reapply the powder to my nose and jaw line. This powder makes the skin look perfected.

 

 

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With Flash

Eyes: To prime my eyes I used, as always, my Tarte Shape Tape ($19 at Ulta). I used the New Classics eye shadow palette ($14 on their website). To set my Shape Tape I used the color Creme. My first transition color is Truffle and my second transition is Darling which I also used on the outer 1/2 of my lid. For my crease color I chose Muse. The outer v was darkened by Earth which I also used on the outer 1/3 of my lid. On the inner 1/2 of my lid I used Beloved and then I used Glamour over top of Beloved on the inner 1/3. For my brow bone highlight I used Blanc and my inner corner highlight is Cosmo. i used a combination of Noir and Earth as my eyeliner and on my lower lash line I used Darling and Earth. On my lower water line I used NYX Faux Whites ($8 at Ulta and NYX’s website) in the color Linen.The mascara I chose was The Balm What’s Your Type? ($19 on The Balm website). I switched it up with my brows today. I used E.L.F. Ultra Precise Brow Pencil ($5 on their website) in deep brown paired with E.L.F. Wow Brow ($4 on their website) also in deep brown

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With Flash

Cheeks and Lips:  I used the E.L.F. Illuminating Palette ($8 on their website). For blush I used their powder blush palette ($8 on their website) in light and I used the second color on the top. Finally I used their lip liner and blending brush ($3 on their website) in the color nude pink and paired it with their high shine liquid lip gloss ($4 on their website).

The Review ….

From what I remember on the ELF primers they are pretty good. The down side is they seem to go off too fast. I have had the 2 that I picked for only 3 months. It could be because I purchased them at Walmart and Walmart doesn’t always keep track of their expiration dates. I am looking forward to trying the pore primer! I have heard great things about it.

The BB Cream is a thin formula that gives you light coverage. Unlike most BB creams with SPF in them, this BB cream doesn’t have a scent and isn’t greasy. It’s pretty good. One dollop is all that is needed. It melds into the skin flawlessly and blended like a dream. However, like most BB creams, it does need to be set in place with a powder. It comes in 6 shades, 1 being a deep shade for dark skin. They do offer 3 color foundation adjusting creams that could help darker skinned lovelies find a shade that’s right for them.

The HD Lifting Concealer is one that I owned and have repurchased several times. The down side is that it only comes in 3 shades, none of which are even close enough for deeper skin. The upside? This concealer looks amazing under the eyes! It makes the skin look glowing and bright and flawless! It doesn’t last from morning to night, unless you set it with a powder.

E.L.F. Sheer Tint Finishing Powder is new to me. I never have tried an ELF powder because I’m so obsessed with the Laura Mercier one. This powder is silky. It comes in 5 shades, 2 that are for darker skin. I did find that by noon I had to reapply the powder to my nose and jaw line. This powder makes the skin look perfected.

The Smooth and Set under eye setting powder has been my go to under eye setting powder for about 3 years now, it’s that good. I use to set my under eye with face powder and it always made my under eye look dry.

This Contour Palette I used to bronze my skin with …. it’s OK as a bronzer, I really should have picked up an actual bronzer. The colors in the palette are good for contour they have the right undertones for shading. The powder blends well and layers beautifully.

New Classics eye shadow palette is amazing! The Shades are pretty, pigmented, and they blend into each other effortlessly. This palette comes with 18 shades, 8 mattes and 10 shimmers. This palette stands up to high end palettes. I will find myself reaching for this one a ton this winter. It’s a great go to palette for that everyday look that can easily be transformed into a night time look , with that black and dark brown shades.                  The Colors : Creme is a true vanilla. Truffle is a peach based tan. Darling is an orange based brown. Muse is a red based brown. Noir is a stand black. Blanc is a dull white with a silver reflect. Uptown is a grey base camel. Charmer is a pink based deep tan. Earth is a dark true brown. Beloved is a peach based pink with a gold reflect. Gilded is a deep gold with a green reflect. Glamour is a true light peach with a pink reflect. Black Cherry is a deep brown with a purple reflect. Cosmo is a beautiful tan with a pink reflect. Rose Gold is a pink based copper with a silver reflect. Platinum is a grey silver with a silver reflect. Opulent is a grey based green with a silver reflect. Downtown is a rainbow colored reflect.

E.L.F. Ultra Precise Brow Pencil really surprised me. Since I don’t really like the eyeliner lines I thought for sure I wouldn’t like the eyebrow pencil. It went on like a dream. It isn’t waxy like most brow pencils, it’s creamy… but not so creamy that it transfers to the forehead. In my opinion it’s just as good as the NYX micro brow pencil. The color was perfect and the point is small enough to draw fine hairs in the bald spots. I will definitely keep this pencil in my rotation which surprises me since I am so attached to the brow powder that I have been using for the better part of 2 years. Now the Wow Brow was another product that surprised me. I expected it to go on patchy or in the wrong color scheme. It goes on like a gel and dries down well. It also doesn’t make the brows feel crunchy. I really enjoy these two products together. The Brow pencil comes in 8 colors and the wow brow comes in 5 colors. These two products together are only $9! They work so well that the price is a steal. 

E.L.F. Illuminating Palette gives you 4 different shades of highlighter. I like them, they are not my favorite, I like the metallic flair highlighter much more (but then again I like full glam makeup much more than subtle makeup). These highlighters give you natural glow, they do have some glitter flecks but it’s nothing too harsh. They are perfect to wear for work or school as they aren’t high impact highlighters. Great for everyday wear.

The lip liner and blending brush is just OK for me. It’s a little waxy and went on a bit patchy for me. Now in full disclouser I did not use my lip balm today ( it was in the living room and I just didn’t want to go get it with the amount of pain I am in.) so this could be a factor as to why it went on patchy. The color payoff was good and I do want to try this liner again when I have my lip balm on to see if it feels less waxy and patchy.

The high shine liquid lip gloss is the unsung hero of the whole order! I have to tell you I hate lip gloss …and I mean HATE. It’s always sticky, never stays put long and then you are stuck reapplying forever, lip gloss always feels heavy on the lips too. This lip gloss is so amazing!!! I’m sad that it only comes in 3 colors and hope that E.L.F. comes out with more shades. I am totally picking up the other 2 shades. This little beauty goes on opaque and smoothly. It is not sticky at all and feels nice on the lips almost like my favorite lip balm. It almost feels like a liquid lipstick, it goes on like a liquid lipstick too. I ate breakfast and drank coffee and when I looked in the mirror my lip gloss was still in place. This isn’t the kind of lip product that you can layer over lip stick, because it’s so opaque that it would add to the color of your lip product not enhance your lip product.

Final Thoughts:                                                                                                                                E.L.F. in general is a great company with great products at affordable prices. The quality of most of their products is amazing, high end quality meets budget friendly prices. This is a great company to explore whether you are a novice or an expert at makeup. This is a great place for novices to build their makeup repertoire. Just like with any other company, they do have some duds but they have more gems than duds.

Well that’s all for now dolls. I hope they day finds you in good spirits with plenty of spoons.

And remember, always save a spoon for a bit of makeup.

XOXO

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cold Weather Blues

Published December 3, 2019 by aspooniesmakeupbag

Hello dolls. Today is a high pain level day for, I’m at a level 8. The weather has turned chilly and the chill is hurting my spoonie bits.  I can’t move my neck to well today, my hips are hurting, and all my muscles are sore and tight.

The cold weather always pushes me into a fibro flare but it also aggravates my rheumatoid arthritis.

I was able to get up and shower and do my hair and makeup and do a blog post but then I had to take a rest.

My medication isn’t working today and my pain level is so high that I can’t keep food down so it’s been a rough day. I also have a wicked headache.

I had planned to cook Spanish beef stew and white rice but the pain is so intense that I decided on Paninis.

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Turkey, Munster Cheese, Tomato, and Pesto

I think today will be an early bed day, hopefully I will be able to sleep. It’s important to remain positive when you are having an off day.

I’ve been crying on and off all day because of the pain. It can deflate the spirits if you aren’t careful.

The important thing to remember that just because you can’t get you whole to do list done doesn’t mean you’re doing bad… it just mean you did your best.

I’m having a hard time with words today so I’ll leave the post with this

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when  you need it.  Keep your head high.

 

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Love and Spoons babies,

Don’t forget to save a spoon for a bit of lipstick.

XOXO

 

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